The Rehearsal Dinner

What is it?

The wedding rehearsal dinner is traditionally held the night before the wedding, just after the rehearsal. If the parents of the bride and groom don't yet know each other or if all of the members of the wedding party haven't yet met, this is a good way to break the ice in anticipation of the Big Day.

All attendants, the bride and her fiancé's immediate families, as well as any out-of-town guests are included in the guest list.  Family and friends of the bride or the host may also be invited.  It is considerate to invite the spouse or significant other of each attendant.

If the attendants gifts have not already been passed out, now is the time to do so. 

Do I have to have one?
You don't have to have one, but there are very few reasons not to. You're going to need to eat on that night anyway, why not eat with your loved ones?

Who pays?

Traditionally the groom's parents pay but nowadays you'll often see couples include the cost in their overall wedding planning budget. Another scenario is for both parents to host it together.

Who plans it?

It is traditionally the realm of the groom's mother. Check in with your mother-in-law and see if she is willing and able to do so. If she wants to, it's a good idea to let her – it gives her a role in the wedding.

How do I invite my guests?

Typically, printed invitations are sent a few days after you send the wedding invitation. These don't need to be elegant and expensive – the easiest thing to do is to get the templates to print on your home computer.

What if I can't afford a rehearsal dinner?

It doesn't have to be some grand formal thing at a restaurant. Some of the best rehearsal dinners are relaxed backyard barbecues which allow people to really get to know each other. But do have one – it's your opportunity to thank all the people who made your wedding day possible.

An early evening is suggested as the events of the following day will be exhausting.  The bride and her attendants will appreciate their beauty sleep.